Gurbani asks us to renounce pride, our all-time occupation to prove ourselves better than others. But as we try to renounce it, we get depressed, feeling ourselves not better than anyone. Then, we get back to our old ways of engaging in superiority and pride.
What is the way out?
The reason we feel depressed as we try to be humble or renounce our need to be better than others is that we are still associated with our ego. Our ego gets threatened as soon as we stop competing with others. Humility is the antidote to ego. So, it is natural for us to feel depressed or even threatened when we stop trying to prove ourselves better over others.
The way out is to not to associate with our ego but to associate with our true nature. Our true nature is divine light. Gurbani says “ਮਨ ਤੂੰ ਜੋਤਿ ਸਰੂਪੁ ਹੈ ਆਪਣਾ ਮੂਲੁ ਪਛਾਣੁ ॥”, which means “O my mind, you are the embodiment of the Divine Light – recognize your own origin.”
The idea is to consider ourselves worthy just because of our true nature or just because we exist, and not place our worthiness on the criterion “how much better we are than others”.
Unless we change our association from ego to our true nature or change the place of our worthiness from extrinsic to intrinsic, we cannot acquire humility. This is what I think.