Both Uday and Vijay were going through a bad phase in life. Gopi was their common friend. He told both of them about the fundamental law of life i.e. “As you sow, so shall you reap”.
Uday, on hearing the law, started cursing himself for bringing so much misery into his life. By cursing, his situation only worsened.
Vijay, on the other hand, smiled on knowing the law and felt empowered. He stopped worrying and started working to achieve his goals in life, knowing that he will get what he sows today.
The conditions were same for both Uday and Vijay. What was told to them was also the same. However, they reacted differently and that made all the difference in what they achieved in life.
Their reactions were their thoughts about the situation. Of course, Vijay also could have thought in a similar was as Uday but he chose not to. This choice to focus on thoughts is our free will that everybody has. We can choose to focus on the negative side of a situation or positive side of a situation. This primal freedom to choose rests on us. We may not have the infinite power to change every situation immediately but the power to choose our reactions never goes away.
Viktor E. Frankl, the author of the best-selling book “Man’s search for meaning” says,
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
There are people who meet accidents but are still grateful that the accidents didn’t turn out to be worse. And then there are people who complain and get angry for even minor problems.
There are people who take failures as learning points and continue their journey with increased passion and determination. And then there are people who break down even at the slightest of failures.
Thomas Edison, one of the great American inventors, said,
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Every situation demands a decision from you.
You have a choice to look at either the positive aspect of it or the negative aspect of it.
A perspective that empowers you
A perspective that disempowers you.
A perspective that takes you closer to your real self
A perspective that takes you farther away from your true self into greater darkness.
You may look at a failure
as your incapability to succeed
as your determination to learn and succeed.
If people make fun of you, you may
feel embarrassed and unworthy
shout back at them and make fun of them
just ignore them and focus on your work
feel compassion for them knowing that only a hurt person can hurt another.
If someone cheats you,
you have a choice to draw a conclusion that this world is full of cheaters and you also need to become one to survive
you may feel the pain of getting cheated and resolute to never cheat anyone in your life.
“Nothing is miserable unless you think it so; and on the other hand, nothing brings happiness unless you are content with it.”
The situation is just a stimulus; your happiness or misery depends on your reaction to it.
The choices we make, or the thoughts we choose to think or pay attention to, build up our life and future.